Denise

So if I were to read it correctly, you are saying that:

1. We are not solitary creatures; we need people to share things with
2. People in society today don't care enough about others to fulfil that need
3. Hence, we all seek for someone whom we know will always be there for us

Pardon me, but I like to be structured in my writing...kinda boring, but at least it makes for easier comprehension. A by-product of our education system, sigh...too many report-writing for me...(it's hard to admit, but I do like janice's flair...i need to incorporate that into my writing, f*ck!)

First, I do agree that we are not solitary creatures. If we go back in history, humans have always existed in packs. It's evolution - We survive when we look out for each other and share responsibilities. This biological instinct could be the reason why we veer towards others when we arrive in a new environment, or why we tend to form cliques after a while.

Psychologically-speaking, we need others to fully enjoy emotions. Feelings of pride, happiness, sadness, anger...They are all in relation to others, no? As janice puts it, emotions are not black nor white; they exist on a spectrum of societal comparisons. You feel happy because you are ‘happier’, you feel sad because you are ‘sadder’ and you feel proud because you ‘did better’. And the weird thing about us humans is that we need others to determine it for us. When we achieved something, we need others to tell us that we did do better; when we are sad, we want others to think that we are justified in being sad. This sounds pretty confusing…haha…but to sum it all up in an example, we enjoy a comedy much more when watching it with friends than alone – if others think it’s funny, it should be funny…

Second, relationships ARE getting diluted. Ever had friends who never seem to have time for you, or who is always travelling, halfway across the world? Well, I am one of those, so I know. We are selfish creatures, especially today. The world is becoming more self-centered; or it forces individuals to focus more on ourselves than others to survive. When we do build lasting bonds, even when I do care, I might not be there physically, or have the time to show my concern enough.

So, if we take me and multiply it by the world’s population, we have many people walking around the globe with individual bubbles around them. Given the first proposition that we all need people to share things with…it becomes kinda depressing…it creates a hole in us…making us seek for someone who can fill that need…sometimes the desire to have someone clouds our judgement and we get together with someone more to fulfil that need than for the person..anyways..im digressing from my second point.

Of course I’m generalizing…If one has close family and friends who are always there for them, the pressing, aching need to have someone shouldn’t be that strong. We probably all know of someone who is like that…who doesn’t need to be in a relationship to be happy. But for most of us…well…we aren’t that lucky.

Last, I’m constantly asking myself this question…Is it right to be together with someone because we need them? Isn’t love supposed to be unconditional? And how do you know whether you like someone for them, or because you just need someone to be there for you, to show you affection, to remind you that you are loved in this world? To not feel so alone. It seems like human nature to have this need, but should it be like that? Being extremely utopian, I wish it isn’t like that, but I have no answer to this grey area…It doesn’t seem right to get together with someone because you need a companion to do stuff, to support you, to give you affirmation, to love you. But this is a whole different issue altogether; on why we get together with someone.

Answering the original question: We all need people, but because of today's society and the nature of friendships, we need someone.

And this is getting boring…just Janice and me…we need you ‘baby’! Write something bitch.